Marriage is like a beautiful dance. Each partner moves with the other, giving and receiving. Sometimes we stumble, and sometimes we glide smoothly. Through it all, two powerful steps keep us going: love and forgiveness.
Love as the First Step
In the Old Testament, the Hebrew word for love is אַהֲבָה (ahabah). It means more than just a feeling—it is an action and a commitment. We see this kind of love in God’s covenant with Israel, where He promised to remain faithful to His people (Jeremiah 31:3).
In the New Testament, we often see the Greek word ἀγάπη (agapé) to describe God’s amazing, sacrificial love. Agapé love is selfless and puts the other person first. It is the kind of love Jesus showed us when He died for our sins (Romans 5:8). This love is patient, kind, and never fails (1 Corinthians 13:4–8).
Practical Tip: In marriage, we show love by putting our spouse’s needs above our own. Whether it is a kind word, a warm hug, or simply doing chores to help, these acts of love strengthen our relationship (Ephesians 5:25).
Forgiveness as the Second Step
No dance is perfect. We sometimes step on each other’s toes. That is when we need forgiveness. In the Old Testament, the Hebrew word סָלַח (salach) is used mainly for God’s forgiveness of our sins (Psalm 103:3). This reminds us that true forgiveness comes from God and is an act of grace.
In the New Testament, the Greek word ἀφίημι (aphiémi) is often translated as “forgive,” meaning “to send away” or “to let go.” When we forgive our spouse, we let go of anger, hurt, and the desire for revenge. Instead, we choose peace and reconciliation. Jesus teaches us, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you” (Matthew 6:14 NLT).
Practical Tip: In marriage, forgiveness means choosing not to hold grudges. Instead, speak the truth in love, pray together, and trust the Holy Spirit to heal your hearts (Ephesians 4:32).
Why Love and Forgiveness Matter
Scripture commands us to “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13 NIV). This is the heart of a marriage that pleases God. Love and forgiveness go hand in hand.
When you fail, your spouse’s love and forgiveness can pick you up. When your spouse makes a mistake, your love and forgiveness can bring healing. By loving each other deeply (1 Peter 4:8) and forgiving quickly, you both learn to reflect God’s grace.
Together is beautiful
Think of your marriage as a dance. You are not dancing alone. The Lord is with you, guiding each step. Let ahabah (love) and salach (forgiveness) flow through you, and let agapé and aphiémi shape your relationship. When you move in step with God’s Word, your marriage will display the beauty of Christ’s love.
Remember, the dance of marriage is a lifelong journey. Keep practicing love and forgiveness daily, and you will see God’s blessings shine upon your home.